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Am openly bisexual to my wife but no-one else. She is very

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Am openly bisexual to my wife but no-one else. She is very understanding, and even open to us experimenting as a couple. Great as that sounds its a helluva step, and I fear causing problems, pain, etc. in what has otherwise been a great and long marriage

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Jul 11

@Private Fully agree with your statements of caution. In fact, I don't think it will ever come up again, which is fine by me. She only mentioned this once in the early days of my opening up to her about me, and I think that was mostly her trying to process the new information, and maybe going out of her way to show empathy. I doubt she would really be in favor of it, and yes, I would have to find the strength to deal with her being with another man!

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Jul 11

@jrmack. I also brought up the idea of exploring in the early days. I suggested open up the marriage as well. For me is was trying to figure out or find a solution to all of it. I do sometimes feel quilty about not wanting my H to explore but i do communicate it with him. I asked many a times myself am i been selffish for wanting to be the one and only. His answer to me is always no, you are not selffish and we all have to make compromises. Maybe i am too old school but for me a marriage and sexual things should between two people. Maybe one day i will be comfortable enough, i dont know. Let she rather bring it up again bc it might feel to her you are pressuring her or you only think about yourself. I do sometimes wish there are a easy solution which will help both parties.
I suggested toys, etc but it seems like it is not the same for my H. I also think for him was all about the thrill of tje chase and mostly the thrill of doing it secretly

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Jul 11

@Private thanks for your comments. Indeed, I will never bring it up myself but continue to focus on enjoying the relationship she and I have. There will always be that other part of me but it doesn’t have to impact my behavior

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